What my father taught!!!
What my father taught!!!
As a young boy I used to get upset and angry when comments were made about me, my behaviour, or my actions.
My father called me one day and said "OK". Now you are able to hear all the comments made about you.
If its adverse you are upset, if its a praise you become very happy.
What happens to all those comments made at your back, in your absence?
You are not there to respond, because you can't listen to them.
Now, you have to be clear about this. Whether you like it or not, comments are going to be made about you, either on your face or in your absence.
You have to analyse and understand whether they are feedbacks or just casual comments.
Use them for your benefit or improvement only.
Getting angry is not going to stop the comments, change their mentality or their attitude towards you.
On the other hand it will only spoil the relationship with them.
If you think that the comments are due to ignorance, jealous or just biased, learn to ignore them (both the comment and the person) and walk away.
Then, life will be more pleasant."
As I grew, I started realising that others need not or would not know what each one of us is going through.
They don't consider the hypothetical situation of how they themselves will behave when facing same or similar situations we were in.
After all, Its none of their business.
One more interesting point.
If we protest, they may stop making the comments or criticisms on our face.
Is there a way by which we can make others stop from talking, making comments, Criticism or judgement about us?
Hardly any!!!!
Then, why bother about something which
1. doesn't affect us, if we don't take it seriously
2. we can't stop
3. may become adverse when handled or reacted...
4. doesn't matter to us
5. will waste our time.
Let's keep doing what we think is right(not blindly, though, but qualified) and travel in the direction of our goal.
We don't have time to listen to nonsense.. we will push them aside, and move forward, unless the criticisms are....
1. from people who care
2. Likely to help us improve
3. Serious suggestions
4. From qualified people like experts/specialists/experienced
5. Relevant
Just that we need to learn to understand how to differentiate a casual criticism from a serious suggestion.
Ignore the brickbats.....
Garlands are waiting...
Conclusion:
When we are sure that we're right, others' comments and criticisms should be used as motivations to take us to heights, which will Silence them....
When the comments are real feedbacks with concern, and relevant, they should be taken seriously, to inspire us to take required course corrections which will help us to reach our goals.
In either case, we should learn to take the opinions, comments, criticisms, observations, in the right spirit, qualify them and use them if required... without losing the focus on our goals...
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